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I joined this site approx 5 weeks ago, and have frankly struggled. I have managed to have vague conversation with a few women on here. And did make it to meet one.
It was during these discussion that I have really figured out what is happening. My experience has been that many of my e-mails have been ignored, those that have responded have done so with just a one liner. The effort from women has frankly been poor, and I was baffled as to why ? you don?t have a picture on display (this is normal on this site ? you have a password protected picture on the site and share the password with someone when you want to), I am average height, build, have a good job, am degree educated and my profile was intelligently written ? so although I fully accept I am not everyone cup of tea, I was surprised by such a lack of interest. I think I know why. Men have to pay a high amount to join, but for women its free. I assumed this would swing the numbers in the males favour, but it does not. I had at least 3 women say they are getting 30+ approaches a day from men, and simply do not have the time to read them all. Also as its free for women I think many of the female members are there for a bit of flirtation or to feed their curiosity, they are not really committed to want to get to know someone or to meet anyone, and as its free they have nothing to lose. Interestingly some women said if they had had to pay they would not have joined ? why should they when they can join free elsewhere. I actually think this is one of the better and more professional sites, I have not been inundated with spam, or false e-mails as I have on others. That?s said I have spend a lot of money to be part of some huge chasing mass of males chasing a few women, many of which are just on there for the thrill of the chase. 5 weeks in and I have messaged every profile that?s is of interest (and that?s across 3 counties) who has actually logged on within a week, those that haven?t are in my view clearly not that active or interested. To have totaled just a few vague chats and 1 meet is not a great outcome from what amounts to over 100 messages I have sent. I have set up an alert for new members, (women aged between 30 and 54 in the 3 counties I mentioned) and new members are around 1 per week.
Not sure what I will do next, but to pay such a high amount to be part of such a large chasing pack, chasing such a few genuine female users is just not good value. For me I won?t be renewing.
Ok - I took the plunge at ?135 for 1 month. Mostly it seems to me that the women on here are genuine, but here are my issues.
Its free for women - so there are a lot of timewasters who are not that bothered, many of my messages have not even been opened, and many more just ignored, without them even checking my profile. I have wasted a lot of precious time.
Many women are arrogent and state they will ignore gits or virtal kisses, they want you to take the time to write them a nice e-mail, I get why, but then so many are ignored its gets frustrating.
Its seems the balance of men paying a fortune and it being free to women means I have wasted a lot of time money so far. My profile is well written, I have a good job, I travel. People can only see your pictures if you send them a password (meaning I am not being overlooked because I am not good looking), so when you add that up, although I know I wont fit the bill for all, it seems odd that so far (3 weeks in) I have only managed to strike up conversation with 2 women, depsite sending over 60 e-mails / gifts. I am going to look for a site where both women and men have to pay - hopefully a more reasonable amount
Pros does not seem full of scammers
Cons free to women - to many time wasters and ignored messages.
Just t expensive. I would keep paying if it was about half the price.
I took membership of this site twice, at £130 for 6 weeks each time...so , expensive! They don't seem to be part of a 'group' of sites, so there is a sense of individuality. But the problem with this site is for women it's free to join, and when us guys pay to join, there is a sense of trying to get your moneys worth in a month, so end up sending as many emails as possible in a month, and the genuine woman find this lazy and off putting, so it's a bit of a catch 22. Also, when your membership is up, you can't retrieve your messages, and so you're cut off from people you've been in contact with. When I said 'genuine' there is definitely a large amount of time wasters or scammers on here...I was getting 'messages' from people all over the country who clearly hadn't read my profile, or had no idea what part of the country is what. They did have a social event near me last year I was lucky enough to get invited to, but was unable to get to because of my holiday. Hopefully there'll be another.
The best thing to come out of this site is I did meet up with a lady from it, and after a couple of times of meeting she told me about a similar site. The other site seemed more genuine, and better value for money...so at least by joining I.E., I got to find out out about another site, which in my opinion, seems better!
Pros Seems like lots of female members, and a good professional site layout.
Cons Not sure how genuine all the female members are, a sense of being fleeced with your membership, and very expensive, definitely not good value for money.
To Expensive for what you get
I joined this site approx 5 weeks ago, and have frankly struggled. I have managed to have vague conversation with a few women on here. And did make it to meet one.
It was during these discussion that I have really figured out what is happening. My experience has been that many of my e-mails have been ignored, those that have responded have done so with just a one liner. The effort from women has frankly been poor, and I was baffled as to why ? you don?t have a picture on display (this is normal on this site ? you have a password protected picture on the site and share the password with someone when you want to), I am average height, build, have a good job, am degree educated and my profile was intelligently written ? so although I fully accept I am not everyone cup of tea, I was surprised by such a lack of interest. I think I know why. Men have to pay a high amount to join, but for women its free. I assumed this would swing the numbers in the males favour, but it does not. I had at least 3 women say they are getting 30+ approaches a day from men, and simply do not have the time to read them all. Also as its free for women I think many of the female members are there for a bit of flirtation or to feed their curiosity, they are not really committed to want to get to know someone or to meet anyone, and as its free they have nothing to lose. Interestingly some women said if they had had to pay they would not have joined ? why should they when they can join free elsewhere. I actually think this is one of the better and more professional sites, I have not been inundated with spam, or false e-mails as I have on others. That?s said I have spend a lot of money to be part of some huge chasing mass of males chasing a few women, many of which are just on there for the thrill of the chase. 5 weeks in and I have messaged every profile that?s is of interest (and that?s across 3 counties) who has actually logged on within a week, those that haven?t are in my view clearly not that active or interested. To have totaled just a few vague chats and 1 meet is not a great outcome from what amounts to over 100 messages I have sent. I have set up an alert for new members, (women aged between 30 and 54 in the 3 counties I mentioned) and new members are around 1 per week.
Not sure what I will do next, but to pay such a high amount to be part of such a large chasing pack, chasing such a few genuine female users is just not good value. For me I won?t be renewing.
Pros
Not full of scammers
Cons
to expensive
to few genuine women
Not Great
Ok - I took the plunge at ?135 for 1 month. Mostly it seems to me that the women on here are genuine, but here are my issues.
Its free for women - so there are a lot of timewasters who are not that bothered, many of my messages have not even been opened, and many more just ignored, without them even checking my profile. I have wasted a lot of precious time.
Many women are arrogent and state they will ignore gits or virtal kisses, they want you to take the time to write them a nice e-mail, I get why, but then so many are ignored its gets frustrating.
Its seems the balance of men paying a fortune and it being free to women means I have wasted a lot of time money so far. My profile is well written, I have a good job, I travel. People can only see your pictures if you send them a password (meaning I am not being overlooked because I am not good looking), so when you add that up, although I know I wont fit the bill for all, it seems odd that so far (3 weeks in) I have only managed to strike up conversation with 2 women, depsite sending over 60 e-mails / gifts. I am going to look for a site where both women and men have to pay - hopefully a more reasonable amount
Pros
does not seem full of scammers
Cons
free to women - to many time wasters and ignored messages.
Just t expensive. I would keep paying if it was about half the price.
Definitely not as good as they make out
I took membership of this site twice, at £130 for 6 weeks each time...so , expensive! They don't seem to be part of a 'group' of sites, so there is a sense of individuality. But the problem with this site is for women it's free to join, and when us guys pay to join, there is a sense of trying to get your moneys worth in a month, so end up sending as many emails as possible in a month, and the genuine woman find this lazy and off putting, so it's a bit of a catch 22. Also, when your membership is up, you can't retrieve your messages, and so you're cut off from people you've been in contact with. When I said 'genuine' there is definitely a large amount of time wasters or scammers on here...I was getting 'messages' from people all over the country who clearly hadn't read my profile, or had no idea what part of the country is what. They did have a social event near me last year I was lucky enough to get invited to, but was unable to get to because of my holiday. Hopefully there'll be another.
The best thing to come out of this site is I did meet up with a lady from it, and after a couple of times of meeting she told me about a similar site. The other site seemed more genuine, and better value for money...so at least by joining I.E., I got to find out out about another site, which in my opinion, seems better!
Pros
Seems like lots of female members, and a good professional site layout.
Cons
Not sure how genuine all the female members are, a sense of being fleeced with your membership, and very expensive, definitely not good value for money.